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  • Writer's picturePamela

Why Most of Us Clatch Our Sphincter and How to Release It

What is she talking about now, you might wonder? Well, in today's post, I'm shining a light on the incredible amount of time we spend tied up in a million knots.

Have you noticed how tightly you hold yourself? If anyone were to touch you you'd release and spring like a firmly wound coil possibly pulling a calf muscle or coming away with a broken hip.

Relax, my friend, relax. Or better yet, chillax.

Yes, it appears we have many things to tense up about. The sky is falling, prices are rising, most folks hate their job so got up and left, customer service or any service is practically non-existent, bouncing interest rates are playing havoc with our sleep, you roll the dice flying with luggage and we can't figure out if it's safe to touch anyone yet. Hmmmm, a vein in my head just tensed listing this tiny set of foibles AND my sphincter just clatched. (clatched = to suddenly hold tightly against your best efforts not to).

These and other such annoying things have been dumped at our doorstep. But we've got a choice; learn to beautifully play the hand we were dealt or find ourselves reacting destructively to everything in our environment. I like to phrase it 'the art of choosing life or death. I'll give you a hint about which way to go - choose life.

But, Pamela, how do I choose life?

It's simple. Your body, if asked, can lead you to life-enhancing choices. Just be still, ask and know.

If you and your body are not well-acquainted and it's not opening up its secrets to you, yet, begin the process by brain-dumping. List 15 ways to bring joy, fun and adventure to your life, where you are now. At first, it will be difficult because your mind isn't practiced enough, yet to dish out creative pursuits. Keep asking. Investigate what excited you in your formative years and most recently. Keep a running tally of all your discoveries. You don't need to try everything on your list but dive in and give one of them a go.

One of the choices you should attempt is to make your health and well-being a priority. For instance, practice excellent sleep hygiene. Most adults exist on nearly half of the recommended amount of sleep. Lack of sleep contributes to many of our issues in life. The American Academy of Sleep Medicine says:

Sleeping less than seven hours per day is associated with an increased risk of developing chronic conditions such as obesity, diabetes, high blood pressure, heart disease, stroke, and frequent mental distress.

Truly, I could go on and on about the many ways you can release the tension in your life, but I have a feeling you already know what to do. The best way to get started is to turn you and your life into a magnificent project, a work of art in the making. Choose you first each day. Don't allow the world into your headspace until you:

  • Meditate

  • Drink two glasses of lemon water

  • Stretch and do some form of exercise

  • Practice breathing exercises

  • Eat greens

  • Indulge in skin and body care/ create a home spa routine

  • Read what lifts your thoughts, ideas and imagination

  • Laugh

  • Make stuff

  • Make an adventure out of solving your problems

You'll notice that once you get busy tending to your inner and outer needs through a heightened sense of responsibility your sphincter will miraculously relax. 😉

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